Divorce impacts many aspects of family life. However, it is the psychological effects divorce has on children that parents really need to focus on when going through a divorce.
Psychological effects of divorce that are not managed with love, care and patience can lead to serious, long-term effects on children’s behaviors and relationships.
The period of divorce has been termed, crazy times. Not only is it difficult for your kids, but it is very difficult for you as human beings. You almost need to take a step backward, put your own emotions aside, and help your children. Then, when you are alone, you can acknowledge, deal with, and face your own emotions.
That is why it is so important for parents to cooperatively parent and not cause tension and dissension within the divorcing family structure.
Short-Term Psychological Effects
When mediating the path of your divorce you will want to examine the short-term effects that your divorce will initially create. These effects will usually include psychological reactions to the news that you are getting divorced. They will usually include anxiety, panic, sadness, anger and/or denial.
To deal with the short-term psychological effects you will want to focus on comforting and educating your kids. This can be done by explaining to your kids what a divorce is and how it will be impacting the family. This is an important step to take.
Next you will want to deal with the emotional needs that your kids will have during your divorce procedure. They will need extra attention and they will need extra assurance that everything is going to be all right and that they will still be loved by both parents.
Long-Term Psychological Effects
Dealing with the short-term psychological effects of divorce will dramatically reduce the number and severity of long-term psychological effects that your children experience. However, even when you handle everything perfectly long-term effects can still develop. This is because everyone deals with change and loss in a different way.
The best way to manage your children and divorce so that long-term effects are minimal is to stay on top of problems that develop. For example, if you notice that your child’s behavior is changing you need to deal with that change constructively. It also means that if you do not know what to do that you seek professional help.
Nipping problems in the bud really is the best option. However, love and compassion are also important. Children who have loving and compassionate households are going to be better able to deal with teh stress of having their parents divorced.